Erectile dysfunction can be caused by a number of cancer treatments. Luckily, your erections may very well return after six to 12 months. But what can you do if they don't?
Being unable to have traditional intercourse is a total bummer. But part of enjoying sex post-cancer requires redefining what sex is. And there are plenty of ways to have some good, old erotic fun without penile penetration. There's kissing, snuggling, and caressing. There's dry humping, which we've always been partial to anyway. There's even mutual masturbation, which can be surprisingly hot in an exhibitionistic sort of way.
There are some sex positions that can improve your chance of maintaining an erection. If you let her get on top, for example, you won't have to worry that the muscles in your thighs and glutes are using up blood that could be put to better use in your penis. Having sex while lying on your side will also help you maintain your erection.
If you always have sex in the evening, you may want to consider mixing things up a bit. After all, do you really want to wait around for your package to perform? So be up for jumping into the sack whenever your member is feeling extra frisky, morning, noon, or night. Not only will this provide more opportunity for sexy time, but the added spontaneity could give the both of you an extra libido boost.
If you're dead set on getting your penis into her vagina, you could try a penile pump, paired with a cock ring. Experimenting with vibrators, cock rings, handcuffs, and other sex toys could also help your erectile issues. Finally, you could consider using a strap-on vibrator or dildo with your partner in order to simulate penetration.
But don't just watch any old movie. Look. Porn/erotica may be one of those pleasurable pursuits you prefer to enjoy alone. But such films can also be used as a tool to combat problems with arousal. And watching one together could allow you and your partner to open up a fruitful dialogue about fantasy, turn-ons, new positions, and more.
Drugs like Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra can also approve your ability to achieve and maintain your erection (though they're not foolproof). There are also other medications (90 percent effective) that can be injected directly into the shaft of your penis, but this can be painful and cause scarring. Beyond this, you could also get a testosterone boost from patches, creams, or injections. Talk to your doctor about your options.
A more extreme option is to undergo penile implant surgery. There are a variety of prostheses, but you should talk to your doctor about possible complications.
Of course, if the issue you're grappling with is psychological, it can help to talk to a counselor... especially one who specializes in erectile dysfunction-related angst.