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How To Feel Sexy When You're Just Plain Fatigued

One of the most common excuses people use when turning down sex from their partner? "Sorry, honey. I'm feeling too tired to exert myself with some strenuous bumping and grinding."

We know. So trite. But it's tough to prioritize sex if you've had a long day at work, a tough couple of hours with the kids, or an hour or so of cooking dinner for the family, followed by too many loads of laundry and a little bit of vacuuming. Unfortunately, issues with fatigue are only exacerbated by cancer, and also by the treatments used to cure it.

For one thing, a cancer diagnosis can lead to both physical and emotional distress, which can -- in turn -- lead to exhaustion. Fatigue is also a common side effect of depression, anxiety, and sleeplessness, three symptoms that are common when you've been diagnosed with cancer. Add to that treatments such as radiation therapy, chemotherapy, immunotherapy, and the other medications used to treat secondary symptoms, and you have all the ingredients for a complete lack of energy.

None of this is any fun -- for you or your nether regions -- but we have some tips on boosting your energy. Right now, you'd probably like to close the blinds, bury yourself in five blankets, and sleep well into tomorrow afternoon. But if your sex life is important to you, it's worth it to give these a try.

Eat Well

We know. You may be experiencing a loss of appetite. But when else are you going to have people urging you to eat more? Of course, we're not suggesting you load up on cupcakes, milkshakes, and Peppermint Patties (though feel free to indulge... in moderation). Rather, consider what your body may be lacking.

Exercise Regularly

Your energy is low. You're feeling weak. Upping your speed on the treadmill is probably the last thing you feel like doing. But if you push yourself to remain active -- without pushing yourself too hard -- your energy levels will reap the benefits. Do the alternate poses on your yoga DVD. Nix that fast-paced Zumba class in favor of the more sensuous belly dancing. Take a brisk walk. Or pair up with your partner and try something that will raise both your heart rates, like a salsa or tango class. Not only will exercise boost your energy, but it will also cause a rush of endorphins... which will have the happy side effect of a racing libido.

Get Plenty of Sleep

Right. Insomnia is common when you have cancer. But you can improve your odds. Close the blinds to block out disturbing light sources. Adjust the temperature in the room so you don't wake up boiling. Make sure your bedding is clean, and the bed freshly made, because a newly made bed feels especially delicious. Throw on some soothing music if you think it will help, or beg for an erotic back rub. And you know what else can help you sleep well? A rousing round of vigorous sex. (Yes. More sleep leads to more sex, and more sex leads to more sleep. Isn't that an endless cycle you'd like to hop in on?) Some of these suggestions are sexier than others, but all of them will lead to a win-win situation... in your bedroom.

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