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Why More Men are Faking It

When it comes to men and their members, we all know that what goes up must, eventually, come down. But what about when a guy's erection goes up and stays up? At first blush, it sounds like bedroom benefit. But delayed ejaculation (DE) is a real problem. This umbrella term describes:

And it's an issue that I'm seeing increasingly.

In the past DE was relatively rare compared with other "mechanical malfunctions" such as erectile disorder (ED) and premature ejaculation (PE), a subject I recently wrote about for this blog. Today, however, new factors are contributing to DE's increased prevalence:

In addition to physical factors, psychological problems can contribute to DE. These can include not wanting to get a woman pregnant, bottled-up anger, and control issues. Lately, I've seen an increase in DE among men who are freaked out about the economy. They may get physiologically aroused, but they're mentally disconnected and can't focus enough to get to the point of orgasm.

But you might not be able to tell any of that from his bedroom performance. That's right, ladies, guys fake it too! It's actually pretty easy when he's using a condom--"I just tense my body and moan a lot" says one former patient--and even if he's going "ungloved," he still might claim he had an orgasm and ejaculated ("It just wasn't a lot"). Although there are no clear stats on the number of men faking it, as the factors that cause DE rise, the incidences of faking rise, too.

Here are tips for dealing with DE:

By understanding delayed ejaculation and being aware of the factors that might cause it, couples can get on the same page, strengthen their relationship and get back to enjoying an intimate sexual connection.

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