I have a confession: I may be a sex therapist, but my own sex life is pretty ordinary. Don't get me wrong--my relationship with my wife is amazing. But if you think my line of work automatically means that we like to visit swingers' clubs or have mirrors on the ceiling of our bedroom, think again. Sexually speaking, my wife and I are both "comfort creatures," and that suits us just fine.
We're not alone. In my experience, there are two types of people when it comes to sex: comfort creatures and thrill seekers. The former tend to prefer to keep sex within the comfort of their own homes, with one partner, sticking to a few tried and true positions and routines. And as the name suggests, thrill seekers are just the opposite. They want new positions and toys, different partners or locations, and more sex. In general, a couple made up of two comfort creatures or two thrill seekers has it easy: They're on the same page, sexually.
But what happens when a comfort creature falls for a thrill seeker, or vice versa?
