Help! I Can't Orgasm the 'Regular' Way

Your Sex Question: How Does a Clit Girl Orgasm During Intercourse?

Believe it or not, the clitoris is involved in pretty much all types of women's orgasms -- even if it's not directly being stimulated at the time. That's because science has made it very clear that the clitoris is much larger than meets the eye. (For starters, it extends backward into the body into two branches called "crura" that increase in size during sexual arousal.)

Even so, some women identify as being responsive to certain types of stimulation, such as being a "clit girl" (as you said). I'm assuming you mean that you tend to orgasm from direct stimulation of the glans clitoris, the part one can see from the outside and which is above the vaginal entrance. If so, then there are several ways to focus stimulation on your clitoris during orgasm.

You could, for example, touch your clitoris during intercourse (doggy-style in a yoga Table pose is good for this as is missionary, assuming you leave enough space between your two bodies). You might also consider trying out a vibrating C-ring, worn around the base of his penis with the vibrator partner on top. That way, when you move your bodies closer together during face-to-face sex, you'll be able to share in the pleasure and reap the benefits of vibration.

Speaking of positions, the Coital Alignment Technique is a gold-standard position for female orgasm, as I wrote about in my book, "Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure & Satisfaction." It's one of the few sex positions that has been found to help make it easier for women to orgasm during sex. Essentially, it's an adaptation of missionary that involves close grinding rather than thrusting and uses his pelvic bone to massage the clitoral area.

Finally, try to focus on your experience of pleasure -- not just the goal of orgasm (which can add pressure, anxiety and feelings of Why isn't this working?). As many as one out of three women never or only rarely experience orgasm during intercourse, and there are many, many ways to experience pleasure and orgasm, so work with what you've got. 

Believe it or not, the clitoris is involved in pretty much all types of women's orgasms -- even if it's not directly being stimulated at the time. That's because science has made it very clear that the clitoris is much larger than meets the eye. (For starters, it extends backward into the body into two branches called "crura" that increase in size during sexual arousal.)

Even so, some women identify as being responsive to certain types of stimulation, such as being a "clit girl" (as you said). I'm assuming you mean that you tend to orgasm from direct stimulation of the glans clitoris, the part one can see from the outside and which is above the vaginal entrance. If so, then there are several ways to focus stimulation on your clitoris during orgasm.

You could, for example, touch your clitoris during intercourse (doggy-style in a yoga Table pose is good for this as is missionary, assuming you leave enough space between your two bodies). You might also consider trying out a vibrating C-ring, worn around the base of his penis with the vibrator partner on top. That way, when you move your bodies closer together during face-to-face sex, you'll be able to share in the pleasure and reap the benefits of vibration.

Speaking of positions, the Coital Alignment Technique is a gold-standard position for female orgasm, as I wrote about in my book, "Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure & Satisfaction." It's one of the few sex positions that has been found to help make it easier for women to orgasm during sex. Essentially, it's an adaptation of missionary that involves close grinding rather than thrusting and uses his pelvic bone to massage the clitoral area.

Finally, try to focus on your experience of pleasure -- not just the goal of orgasm (which can add pressure, anxiety and feelings of Why isn't this working?). As many as one out of three women never or only rarely experience orgasm during intercourse, and there are many, many ways to experience pleasure and orgasm, so work with what you've got.
  Believe it or not, the clitoris is involved in pretty much all types of women's orgasms -- even if it's not directly being stimulated at the time. That's because science has made it very clear that the clitoris is much larger than meets the eye. (For starters, it extends backward into the body into two branches called "crura" that increase in size during sexual arousal.)

Even so, some women identify as being responsive to certain types of stimulation, such as being a "clit girl" (as you said). I'm assuming you mean that you tend to orgasm from direct stimulation of the glans clitoris, the part one can see from the outside and which is above the vaginal entrance. If so, then there are several ways to focus stimulation on your clitoris during orgasm.

You could, for example, touch your clitoris during intercourse (doggy-style in a yoga Table pose is good for this as is missionary, assuming you leave enough space between your two bodies). You might also consider trying out a vibrating C-ring, worn around the base of his penis with the vibrator partner on top. That way, when you move your bodies closer together during face-to-face sex, you'll be able to share in the pleasure and reap the benefits of vibration.

Speaking of positions, the Coital Alignment Technique is a gold-standard position for female orgasm, as I wrote about in my book, "Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure & Satisfaction." It's one of the few sex positions that has been found to help make it easier for women to orgasm during sex. Essentially, it's an adaptation of missionary that involves close grinding rather than thrusting and uses his pelvic bone to massage the clitoral area.

Finally, try to focus on your experience of pleasure -- not just the goal of orgasm (which can add pressure, anxiety and feelings of Why isn't this working?). As many as one out of three women never or only rarely experience orgasm during intercourse, and there are many, many ways to experience pleasure and orgasm, so work with what you've got.
 
 

Believe it or not, the clitoris is involved in pretty much all types of women's orgasms -- even if it's not directly being stimulated at the time. That's because science has made it very clear that the clitoris is much larger than meets the eye. (For starters, it extends backward into the body into two branches called "crura" that increase in size during sexual arousal.)

Even so, some women identify as being responsive to certain types of stimulation, such as being a "clit girl" (as you said). I'm assuming you mean that you tend to orgasm from direct stimulation of the glans clitoris, the part one can see from the outside and which is above the vaginal entrance. If so, then there are several ways to focus stimulation on your clitoris during orgasm.

You could, for example, touch your clitoris during intercourse (doggy-style in a yoga Table pose is good for this as is missionary, assuming you leave enough space between your two bodies). You might also consider trying out a vibrating C-ring, worn around the base of his penis with the vibrator partner on top. That way, when you move your bodies closer together during face-to-face sex, you'll be able to share in the pleasure and reap the benefits of vibration.

Speaking of positions, the Coital Alignment Technique is a gold-standard position for female orgasm, as I wrote about in my book, "Because It Feels Good: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Pleasure & Satisfaction." It's one of the few sex positions that has been found to help make it easier for women to orgasm during sex. Essentially, it's an adaptation of missionary that involves close grinding rather than thrusting and uses his pelvic bone to massage the clitoral area.

Finally, try to focus on your experience of pleasure -- not just the goal of orgasm (which can add pressure, anxiety and feelings of Why isn't this working?). As many as one out of three women never or only rarely experience orgasm during intercourse, and there are many, many ways to experience pleasure and orgasm, so work with what you've got.